“What am I? Why am I feeling this way? Why did I do that?”
Above are the questions I always asked myself.
If you ask me what is my hobby, I must include thinking and self search as my hobby.
#Selfhelp my favourite genre.
When I was 19, my senior executive counselor, kak yana taught me of the characteristics of human. The Big Five.
Extravert vs Introvert.
𝐒𝐨, 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐢𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐝𝐢𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐭𝐰𝐞𝐞𝐧 𝐞𝐱𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐭 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐭?
1. Loves being with people
2. Talkative when stimulated
3. Feeds off the hype around them
4. Thinks aloud
5. Likes to try new things
6. Make prompt decision
7. Normally outgoing person
1. Needs a break from time to time
2. Happy to listen & observe
3. Prefer to work independently
4. Like to process internally
5. Thinks deeply before taking action
6. Require advance notice to prepare
7. Normally be seen as much reserve
There are also ambivert, but since I tak sempat berguru from Kak yana on that, I rather not discuss of it.
Introvert or extravert,
𝗟𝗲𝘁 𝗶𝘁 𝗯𝗲 𝗸𝗻𝗼𝘄𝗻, 𝗽𝗲𝗼𝗽𝗹𝗲 𝘁𝗲𝗺𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘀 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗲 𝗱𝘂𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗶𝗿 𝘀𝘂𝗿𝗿𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗶𝗻𝗳𝗹𝘂𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲.
Therefore the easiest way to understand your current self is to analyse how you charge yourself.
Either with the presence of crowd or you charge yourself with Me-Time?
𝗦𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗱𝗹𝘆, 𝗯𝗲𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝗻 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗿𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘁/𝗲𝘅𝘁𝗿𝗮𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘁 𝗱𝗼𝗲𝘀𝗻𝘁 𝗺𝗲𝗮𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝟭𝟬𝟬% 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗿𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘁/𝗲𝘅𝘁𝗿𝗮𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘁.
It’s just your majority behaviour inclined to that. And as I said earlier, your majority can change.
Addition to this,
As written by Glen Binger, introvert or extravert, when trained with correct skills, both can be good leader.
The only difference is their approach.
𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗼𝗻 𝘀𝗸𝗶𝗹𝗹𝘀 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗿𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘁 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗲𝘅𝘁𝗿𝗮𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘁?
Extravert are normally good at:
1. Processing new information
2. Applying new knowledge quickily
3. Talking more abstractly
4. Risk taking
Introvert are normally good at:
3. Problem solving
4. Motor control
5. Self regulation
𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘀𝗶𝗴𝗻𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝘀𝘁𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗲𝗱 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗿𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘁/𝗲𝘅𝘁𝗿𝗮𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘁?
When stressed, extravert become agressive, impulsive, restless, changeable.
When they are stable, they are carefree, responsive, optimistic.
While unstable introverts tend to be unsociable, pessimistic, unfocused, moody.
If not, they are calm, reliable and thoughtful.
𝗪𝗵𝗼 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗳𝗮𝗺𝗼𝘂𝘀 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗿𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘁 𝗼𝗿 𝗲𝘅𝘁𝗿𝗮𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘁 𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗱𝗲𝗿?
Extravert: Steve Job, Bill Clinton, Barrack Obama
Introvert: Billgates, Jeff Bezos, Elonmusk, Mark Zukerberg, Peng Joon
Source: psychology TIME
The key to better interaction in life is embracing yourself for who you are and accepting others for who they are.
There’s no bad being introvert/extravert.
𝗛𝘂𝗺𝗮𝗻 𝘄𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝗮𝗹𝘄𝗮𝘆𝘀 𝗯𝗲 𝗵𝘂𝗺𝗮𝗻. 𝗧𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲’𝘀 𝗮𝗹𝘄𝗮𝘆𝘀 𝗿𝗼𝗼𝗺 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗶𝗺𝗽𝗿𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁.
I’ll end this with an interesting quote by bill gates.
“I think introverts can do quite well. If you’re clever you can learn to get the benefits of being an introvert.
You better hire some extroverts… and tap into both sets of skills in order to have a company that thrives”- Bill Gates.
Do you know any introvert/extravert leader in malaysia?
I know Faizul Ridzuan is an introvert..